Knowing When It Is Over

By Cool Hunters Guide

First thing’s first.You’re not going to leave them until you’re ready.Know this, understand this, and read on.

Despite all the advice you will get from your friends and family until you’re ready to make a move and leave your partner, none of it matters. With that out of the way, let’s get down to how to spot the signs in a dwindling relationship.

I feel a good majority of couples stay together, until their last leg, because of a funny little thing called “history.” The sense of security that comes with “history” in a relationship is astonishing. It can hold even the most broken couples together. Honestly, this is not a good thing.

To spot the possible signs of a dying flame, you must ask yourself: What does my future look like with this person? Do I feel for them? Do they make me hot in all the right spots? It’s easy to get distracted by what was, listen to what your body, heart, and mind are telling you in this exact moment, while you’re reading this.

How do you feel? Are you afraid of starting over? Too tired to move on to someone who could be better? What’s holding you back?

Knowing when your relationship is over is already inside you. When everything your partner does annoys you; their smell, sight, and touch turns you off, not on. In this moment, you will realize you no longer look at your partner the same.

When you find yourself reminiscing about the good old days, and not looking forward to your feature with “bae,” it’s time to get yourself a new boo. Yes, it will hurt, and you’re going to feel uncomfortable for awhile.

If you find your mind wandering, to thoughts on how your life could be with someone else (biggest sign of them all), it’s time to let go. You should not be fearful finding yourself a new lover, even if that love is you.

Every relationship is different, the only constant you will encounter is who you are. When you trust in yourself, you will see the signs to close this chapter in your life and move on.